Happy 2nd Anniversary!
Thank God He give ME YOU!
Friday, April 8, 2011
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Yosi
Ikaw ang bitamina nitong aking kaluluwa,
di man makatikim ng luto ni inday sa umaga,
wala man ang tsaa, tinapay, basta mahithit ka,
oh... ang araw ko'y kay ganda ng simula.
Isang stik mo lang loob ay panatag,
di ka ma amoy damdamin nabaabagabag,
para bang lakas ko'y unti-unting natitibag,
natutupok, halos malaglag.
Usok mo man buhay ay nakikitil,
wala akong pakialam di pasusupil,
ako may hawak sayo walang makakapigil,
kahit si chi-chi tatapon sa bintana kapag nanggigil.
Magwawala kapag di ka nasilayan,
Milan ay guguho bitamina nasaan?
kunin na ang lahat huwag lang ang nakasanayan,
kung ayaw nyong magsama ang balat sa tinalupan.
Para po kay Kuya Gaia ang tula na to! sa sobrang pagmamahal nya sa yosi nya, "Cigarrete Smoking id dangerous to your health!" (lol)
Monday, January 10, 2011
Jhoe's Kiddie Party
White Forest Chocolate Cakepero nagrereklamo ang celebrant hindi daw ito ang favorite cake nya! lol
yummy...
mga bisita ni Jhoe
Meeting April
oh...so sweet! Mother & Son
food...food...food...
Chocolate Mousse Cake(another cake pag bigyan ang celebrant lol )
Ayan wala ka ng reklamo ha! hahahahah
Peace...
bilis kids...madami pa!
halatang busog na sila kasi ang kukulit na, hahahaha
Nag-enjoy ako ng sobra na araw na ito! Although wala ka dito, hope naramdaman mo kung gano ka ka importanti sakin...
Peace...
bilis kids...madami pa!
halatang busog na sila kasi ang kukulit na, hahahaha
Nag-enjoy ako ng sobra na araw na ito! Although wala ka dito, hope naramdaman mo kung gano ka ka importanti sakin...
Happy Birthday Mahal ko I love you so much...Godbless us
Monday, November 29, 2010
ENSAYMADA
Kaninang umaga habang pauwi na ako galing palengke sinusundan ko ang mag-amang nagtutulak ng kariton na laman ng mga lumang kahoy at mga plastik. Napansin ko kagad ang kabibohan ng batang lalaki. Ang liit nya pero ang liksi gumalaw todo tulak sya sa kariton na kala mo kayang-kaya nya na, napangiti na lang ako habang sinusundan ko sila. Sa di kalayuan may nakahintong bisikletang nagtitinda ng mga tinapay ng makita yon ng bata takbo sya papunta don tpos sabay sigaw sa kanyang ama ng "tay bili tayo!" na nakaturo ang mga daliri sa malalaking ensaymada. Huminto ang ama at ang kanyang kariton sa tapat ng bisikletang nagtitinda sabay dukot sa bulsa, binilang ang mga barya tpos tinuro sa tindero ang pandesal. Nakita ng bata ang tinuro ng ama "ayaw ko nyan!" sabi nya, "ito oh!" na nakaturo sa ensaymada. Ngumiti na lang ang kanyang ama sabay abot ng bayad sa biniling pandesal, ngiti na alam ko na nahiya kasi di mapagbigyan ang anak at nakita nyang ring nakatingin ako. Iniabot nya sa anak ang supot ng pandesal pero ayaw ng bata. May kunting kirot akong naramdaman sa eksenang yon. Habang inaamo ng tatay ang kanyang anak bumili ako ng ensaymada at binigay sa bata. Sa tuwa nya tumakbo papalayo habang kagat ang tinapay na bigay ko, ngumiti ang ama at nagpasalamat sakin at sinuklian ko din ng ngiti at naglakad na ako pauwi.
-Naisip ko lang madami sa atin nag-iisip kung kilan makakabili ng bagong cellphone,loptop mga bagong damit, pero may mga taong masaya na na makakain ng tatlong beses sa isang araw. Dapat magpasalamat tayo, kasi sobra-sobrang biyaya na ang natatanggap natin sa araw-araw kaysa sa iba!
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Monday, September 6, 2010
Pagliluhan
Ibig kong marikit,
katapatan ko yaring kapalit,
sayo handang ibigay ang nais,
sa pag sinta mong walang paris.
Ngalan ko siyang laging titik mo,
hahamakin ang lahat hanggang dulo,
puso mang lumbay mapapa-amo,
sa pulot na kandiling bigay mo.
Ngunit sarili ko'y na umid sa napagtanto,
balintataw ma'y di napahinuhod na totoo,
na ikaw irog kong marikit paglililuhan ako,
saan nagkulang? may mali ba ako?
Isa ka ngang pantas na matuturing,
ni kunting hinala sayo'y di mawaring,
napangalisag na lng itong abang giliw
irog ko sa iba ika'y umiindak, nang-aaliw.
Paraiso ko luha'y bumabalisbis,
di mawatawat kung ano pa ang iyong nais,
ngayon abang giliw mo'y nagtatangis,
dibdib parang naaagnas sa sobrang hapis.
Pagsaulang-loob ngayo'y nasaan?
pagdulutan mo itong abang napagliluhan,
ng aking piling ibig na nakahilig sa ibang kandungan,
marawal na anino ngayo'y naaaninag sa aking taksil na kasintahan.
katapatan ko yaring kapalit,
sayo handang ibigay ang nais,
sa pag sinta mong walang paris.
Ngalan ko siyang laging titik mo,
hahamakin ang lahat hanggang dulo,
puso mang lumbay mapapa-amo,
sa pulot na kandiling bigay mo.
Ngunit sarili ko'y na umid sa napagtanto,
balintataw ma'y di napahinuhod na totoo,
na ikaw irog kong marikit paglililuhan ako,
saan nagkulang? may mali ba ako?
Isa ka ngang pantas na matuturing,
ni kunting hinala sayo'y di mawaring,
napangalisag na lng itong abang giliw
irog ko sa iba ika'y umiindak, nang-aaliw.
Paraiso ko luha'y bumabalisbis,
di mawatawat kung ano pa ang iyong nais,
ngayon abang giliw mo'y nagtatangis,
dibdib parang naaagnas sa sobrang hapis.
Pagsaulang-loob ngayo'y nasaan?
pagdulutan mo itong abang napagliluhan,
ng aking piling ibig na nakahilig sa ibang kandungan,
marawal na anino ngayo'y naaaninag sa aking taksil na kasintahan.
Friday, August 13, 2010
Easy Ways to Spot an Emotional Manipulator
Written by: Fiona McColl
1.There is no use in trying to be honest with an emotional manipulator. You make a statement and it will be turned around. Example: I am really angry that you forgot my birthday. Response - "It makes me feel sad that you would think I would forget your birthday, I should have told you of the great personal stress I am facing at the moment - but you see I didn’t want to trouble you. You are right I should have put all this pain (don’t be surprised to see real tears at this point) aside and focused on your birthday. Sorry." Even as you are hearing the words you get the creeped out sensation that they really do NOT mean they are sorry at all - but since they’ve said the words you’re pretty much left with nothing more to say. Either that or you suddenly find yourself babysitting their angst!! Under all circumstances if you feel this angle is being played - don’t capitulate! Do not care take - do not accept an apology that feels like bullshit. If it feels like bullshit - it probably is. Rule number one - if dealing with an emotional blackmailer TRUST your gut. TRUST your senses. Once an emotional manipulator finds a successful maneuver - it’s added to their hit list and you’ll be fed a steady diet of this shit.
2.An emotional manipulator is the picture of a willing helper. If you ask them to do something they will almost always agree - that is IF they didn’t volunteer to do it first. Then when you say, "ok thanks" - they make a bunch of heavy sighs, or other non verbal signs that let you know they don’t really want to do whatever said thing happens to be. When you tell them it doesn’t seem like they want to do whatever - they will turn it around and try to make it seem like OF COURSE they wanted to and how unreasonable you are. This is a form of crazy making - which is something emotional manipulators are very good at. Rule number two - If an emotional manipulator said YES - make them accountable for it. Do NOT buy into the sighs and subtleties - if they don’t want to do it - make them tell you it up front - or just put on the walk-man headphones and run a bath and leave them to their theater.
3.Crazy making - saying one thing and later assuring you they did not say it. If you find yourself in a relationship where you figure you should start keeping a log of what’s been said because you are beginning to question your own sanity --You are experiencing emotional manipulation. An emotional manipulator is an expert in turning things around, rationalizing, justifying and explaining things away. They can lie so smoothly that you can sit looking at black and they’ll call it white - and argue so persuasively that you begin to doubt your very senses. Over a period of time this is so insidious and eroding it can literally alter your sense of reality. WARNING: Emotional Manipulation is VERY Dangerous! It is very disconcerting for an emotional manipulator if you begin carrying a pad of paper and a pen and making notations during conversations. Feel free to let them know you just are feeling so "forgetful" these days that you want to record their words for posterity’s sake. The damndest thing about this is that having to do such a thing is a clear example for why you should be seriously thinking about removing yourself from range in the first place. If you’re toting a notebook to safeguard yourself - that ol’ bullshit meter should be flashing steady by now!
4.Guilt. Emotional manipulators are excellent guilt mongers. They can make you feel guilty for speaking up or not speaking up, for being emotional or not being emotional enough, for giving and caring, or for not giving and caring enough. Any thing is fair game and open to guilt with an emotional manipulator. Emotional manipulators seldom express their needs or desires openly - they get what they want through emotional manipulation. Guilt is not the only form of this but it is a potent one. Most of us are pretty conditioned to do whatever is necessary to reduce our feelings of guilt. Another powerful emotion that is used is sympathy. An emotional manipulator is a great victim. They inspire a profound sense of needing to support, care for and nurture. Emotional Manipulators seldom fight their own fights or do their own dirty work. The crazy thing is that when you do it for them (which they will never ask directly for), they may just turn around and say they certainly didn’t want or expect you to do anything! Try to make a point of not fighting other people’s battles, or doing their dirty work for them. A great line is "I have every confidence in your ability to work this out on your own" - check out the response and note the bullshit meter once again.
5.Emotional manipulators fight dirty. They don’t deal with things directly. They will talk around behind your back and eventually put others in the position of telling you what they would not say themselves. They are passive aggressive, meaning they find subtle ways of letting you know they are not happy little campers. They’ll tell you what they think you want to hear and then do a bunch of jerk off shit to undermine it. Example: "Of course I want you to go back to school honey and you know I’ll support you." Then exam night you are sitting at the table and poker buddies show up, the kids are crying the t.v. blasting and the dog needs walking - all the while "Sweetie" is sitting on their ass looking at you blankly. Dare you call them on such behavior you are likely to hear, "well you can’t expect life to just stop because you have an exam can you honey?" Cry, scream or choke ‘em - only the last will have any long-term benefits and it’ll probably wind your butt in jail.
6.If you have a headache an emotional manipulator will have a brain tumor! No matter what your situation is the emotional manipulator has probably been there or is there now - but only ten times worse. It’s hard after a period of time to feel emotionally connected to an emotional manipulator because they have a way of de-railing conversations and putting the spotlight back on themselves. If you call them on this behavior they will likely become deeply wounded or very petulant and call you selfish - or claim that it is you who are always in the spotlight. The thing is that even tho you know this is not the case you are left with the impossible task of proving it. Don’t bother - TRUST your gut and walk away!
7.Emotional manipulators somehow have the ability to impact the emotional climate of those around them. When an emotional manipulator is sad or angry the very room thrums with it - it brings a deep instinctual response to find someway to equalize the emotional climate and the quickest route is by making the emotional manipulator feel better - fixing whatever is broken for them. Stick with this type of loser for too long and you will be so enmeshed and co-dependent you will forget you even have needs - let alone that you have just as much right to have your needs met.
8.Emotional manipulators have no sense of accountability. They take no responsibility for themselves or their behavior - it is always about what everyone else has "done to them". One of the easiest ways to spot an emotional manipulator is that they often attempt to establish intimacy through the early sharing of deeply personal information that is generally of the "hook-you-in-and-make-you-sorry-for-me" variety. Initially you may perceive this type of person as very sensitive, emotionally open and maybe a little vulnerable. Believe me when I say that an emotional manipulator is about as vulnerable as a rabid pit bull, and there will always be a problem or a crisis to overcome.
Some would say it is possible with time, a great deal of honesty and communication to work through emotional manipulation. Personally I think life is short and precious - the only worthwhile thing to do when confronted with an emotionally manipulative person is to BROOM THEIR ASS TO THE CURB! A Relationship with emotionally manipulative person is similar to re-exposing yourself over and over and over to a highly toxic and potentially fatal virus. Each brush with it reduces your immunity and weakens your defenses. It can take more time for someone that has been in an emotionally manipulative relationship (READ: ABUSE) to recover than it does for someone that leaves a physically abusive one. At least you can name that punch that hit you. Emotional abuse is subtle. It is insidious. It is dangerous. If you are in it - walk away and never look back. Make it a rule!
1.There is no use in trying to be honest with an emotional manipulator. You make a statement and it will be turned around. Example: I am really angry that you forgot my birthday. Response - "It makes me feel sad that you would think I would forget your birthday, I should have told you of the great personal stress I am facing at the moment - but you see I didn’t want to trouble you. You are right I should have put all this pain (don’t be surprised to see real tears at this point) aside and focused on your birthday. Sorry." Even as you are hearing the words you get the creeped out sensation that they really do NOT mean they are sorry at all - but since they’ve said the words you’re pretty much left with nothing more to say. Either that or you suddenly find yourself babysitting their angst!! Under all circumstances if you feel this angle is being played - don’t capitulate! Do not care take - do not accept an apology that feels like bullshit. If it feels like bullshit - it probably is. Rule number one - if dealing with an emotional blackmailer TRUST your gut. TRUST your senses. Once an emotional manipulator finds a successful maneuver - it’s added to their hit list and you’ll be fed a steady diet of this shit.
2.An emotional manipulator is the picture of a willing helper. If you ask them to do something they will almost always agree - that is IF they didn’t volunteer to do it first. Then when you say, "ok thanks" - they make a bunch of heavy sighs, or other non verbal signs that let you know they don’t really want to do whatever said thing happens to be. When you tell them it doesn’t seem like they want to do whatever - they will turn it around and try to make it seem like OF COURSE they wanted to and how unreasonable you are. This is a form of crazy making - which is something emotional manipulators are very good at. Rule number two - If an emotional manipulator said YES - make them accountable for it. Do NOT buy into the sighs and subtleties - if they don’t want to do it - make them tell you it up front - or just put on the walk-man headphones and run a bath and leave them to their theater.
3.Crazy making - saying one thing and later assuring you they did not say it. If you find yourself in a relationship where you figure you should start keeping a log of what’s been said because you are beginning to question your own sanity --You are experiencing emotional manipulation. An emotional manipulator is an expert in turning things around, rationalizing, justifying and explaining things away. They can lie so smoothly that you can sit looking at black and they’ll call it white - and argue so persuasively that you begin to doubt your very senses. Over a period of time this is so insidious and eroding it can literally alter your sense of reality. WARNING: Emotional Manipulation is VERY Dangerous! It is very disconcerting for an emotional manipulator if you begin carrying a pad of paper and a pen and making notations during conversations. Feel free to let them know you just are feeling so "forgetful" these days that you want to record their words for posterity’s sake. The damndest thing about this is that having to do such a thing is a clear example for why you should be seriously thinking about removing yourself from range in the first place. If you’re toting a notebook to safeguard yourself - that ol’ bullshit meter should be flashing steady by now!
4.Guilt. Emotional manipulators are excellent guilt mongers. They can make you feel guilty for speaking up or not speaking up, for being emotional or not being emotional enough, for giving and caring, or for not giving and caring enough. Any thing is fair game and open to guilt with an emotional manipulator. Emotional manipulators seldom express their needs or desires openly - they get what they want through emotional manipulation. Guilt is not the only form of this but it is a potent one. Most of us are pretty conditioned to do whatever is necessary to reduce our feelings of guilt. Another powerful emotion that is used is sympathy. An emotional manipulator is a great victim. They inspire a profound sense of needing to support, care for and nurture. Emotional Manipulators seldom fight their own fights or do their own dirty work. The crazy thing is that when you do it for them (which they will never ask directly for), they may just turn around and say they certainly didn’t want or expect you to do anything! Try to make a point of not fighting other people’s battles, or doing their dirty work for them. A great line is "I have every confidence in your ability to work this out on your own" - check out the response and note the bullshit meter once again.
5.Emotional manipulators fight dirty. They don’t deal with things directly. They will talk around behind your back and eventually put others in the position of telling you what they would not say themselves. They are passive aggressive, meaning they find subtle ways of letting you know they are not happy little campers. They’ll tell you what they think you want to hear and then do a bunch of jerk off shit to undermine it. Example: "Of course I want you to go back to school honey and you know I’ll support you." Then exam night you are sitting at the table and poker buddies show up, the kids are crying the t.v. blasting and the dog needs walking - all the while "Sweetie" is sitting on their ass looking at you blankly. Dare you call them on such behavior you are likely to hear, "well you can’t expect life to just stop because you have an exam can you honey?" Cry, scream or choke ‘em - only the last will have any long-term benefits and it’ll probably wind your butt in jail.
6.If you have a headache an emotional manipulator will have a brain tumor! No matter what your situation is the emotional manipulator has probably been there or is there now - but only ten times worse. It’s hard after a period of time to feel emotionally connected to an emotional manipulator because they have a way of de-railing conversations and putting the spotlight back on themselves. If you call them on this behavior they will likely become deeply wounded or very petulant and call you selfish - or claim that it is you who are always in the spotlight. The thing is that even tho you know this is not the case you are left with the impossible task of proving it. Don’t bother - TRUST your gut and walk away!
7.Emotional manipulators somehow have the ability to impact the emotional climate of those around them. When an emotional manipulator is sad or angry the very room thrums with it - it brings a deep instinctual response to find someway to equalize the emotional climate and the quickest route is by making the emotional manipulator feel better - fixing whatever is broken for them. Stick with this type of loser for too long and you will be so enmeshed and co-dependent you will forget you even have needs - let alone that you have just as much right to have your needs met.
8.Emotional manipulators have no sense of accountability. They take no responsibility for themselves or their behavior - it is always about what everyone else has "done to them". One of the easiest ways to spot an emotional manipulator is that they often attempt to establish intimacy through the early sharing of deeply personal information that is generally of the "hook-you-in-and-make-you-sorry-for-me" variety. Initially you may perceive this type of person as very sensitive, emotionally open and maybe a little vulnerable. Believe me when I say that an emotional manipulator is about as vulnerable as a rabid pit bull, and there will always be a problem or a crisis to overcome.
Some would say it is possible with time, a great deal of honesty and communication to work through emotional manipulation. Personally I think life is short and precious - the only worthwhile thing to do when confronted with an emotionally manipulative person is to BROOM THEIR ASS TO THE CURB! A Relationship with emotionally manipulative person is similar to re-exposing yourself over and over and over to a highly toxic and potentially fatal virus. Each brush with it reduces your immunity and weakens your defenses. It can take more time for someone that has been in an emotionally manipulative relationship (READ: ABUSE) to recover than it does for someone that leaves a physically abusive one. At least you can name that punch that hit you. Emotional abuse is subtle. It is insidious. It is dangerous. If you are in it - walk away and never look back. Make it a rule!
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
PANLILINLANG
laot ng panloloko
kumakaway nanunuyo
matamis na paanyaya
sa kanya'y maaaninag nananahan
mga kataga na humahaplos sa puso
animo'y mala anghel ang kanyang anino
sa galaw na di makabasag plato
di mo iisipin kayang mag manipula ng tao
sa pag hanga di mo mapupuna
na bawat galaw di numero, sinusukat pala
bawal magkamali lahat dapat tugma
kundi ang nasimulan mapupunta sa wala
mga tagahanga lalong pabibilibin
bubusugin ng mala gintong aralin
ng di makitaan ng anumang butil,
butil ng panlilinlang na kung bubuksan kaya kang patumbahin
kumakaway nanunuyo
matamis na paanyaya
sa kanya'y maaaninag nananahan
mga kataga na humahaplos sa puso
animo'y mala anghel ang kanyang anino
sa galaw na di makabasag plato
di mo iisipin kayang mag manipula ng tao
sa pag hanga di mo mapupuna
na bawat galaw di numero, sinusukat pala
bawal magkamali lahat dapat tugma
kundi ang nasimulan mapupunta sa wala
mga tagahanga lalong pabibilibin
bubusugin ng mala gintong aralin
ng di makitaan ng anumang butil,
butil ng panlilinlang na kung bubuksan kaya kang patumbahin
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